Find the direction that’s right for you

This programme is for you if you have important choices to make. When you are unsure of what to do, but you do know that you want to take the decision with respect for everyone involved while at the same time staying true to yourself, then this programme is made with you in mind.

It's for you when you are currently at crossroads in life: for example in relation to your partner, children, moving home or in regards to your career. Or it might be that your entire life feels up in the air at the moment. This programme takes you by the hand and guides you step by step to a place of clarity and calm.

If you wish to re-connect with yourself, to find out what you really want and to be fully present for those you love, then this programme will bring clarity and confidence to your next phase in life.

When life presents you with challenges, this programme shows you which path to take to live true to yourself and reconnect with what matters most. During this course you will:

- Get a bird's eye view of your current situation and gain crystal clear clarity on your best way forward;

- Listen to your inner wisdom by following your heart and trusting your intuition;

- Develop the courage to dare to express your truth. Stop living a life based on expectations of others, but knowing who you are, deep inside, and living true to yourself;

- Understand and overcome your fears, which will inevitable come up when we step out into the unknown;

- Find and follow the path true to your own calling.

Throughout this programme you will re-connect with who you really wish to be and who you have always been, deep inside. It's a sacred journey of in-depth personal discovery.

Sometimes our own lack of confidence of being able to make a change can mean we never get going in the first place. There may be other worries lurking in our minds; Will I have to completely change who I am? Can I do that? Do I deserve to be that happy? Do I have the support of my family? Will my partner approve of the changes I want to make? Will it work out?

This course has been created as a very gentle and supportive companion, it will support you in becoming clearer about yourself, it will help you explore and heal in the most gentle way and you are in control of how this shapes your life. Also, this course is completely self-paced, and taking small steps at your own rhythm will one day get you exactly where you'd like to be!

I know from experience that once the pathway is clear, once we are free from what is getting in the way, then it absolutely is possible to make the changes we want for ourselves.

This one is a common worry. It's partly a genuine fear as inconvenient stuff is going to come to the surface. Almost guaranteed. But it's like a spring clean; once you're free of the old, unnecessary stuff you'll feel so much lighter and there will be space for the new.

And yes, change can be inconvenient. Moving away from what we know is scary, even when it's not making us happy. If you are at peace with the way things are, then don't change. But if you feel there is more out there for you, be courageous and jump in. One day you'll look back and you'll be grateful that you did.

As you might travel through delicate territory we want to make sure you'll be alright along the way. Therefore we invite those of you who feel a little fragile, to have a free conversation with one of our coaches before you start, or to combine the online course with one-to-one sessions for additional support along the way.

In life, we have a tendency to distract ourselves from what's uncomfortable. We prefer to avoid and to hide and to numb. I sometimes wonder if this “I'll try it on my own” is an excuse to not get professional help. Does it stem from our wish to avoid something that might seem uncomfortable? But connecting with your true emotions is a crucial aspect of moving forward. It's short-term pain for long-term gain.

Often the fear of the fear is way worse than what is actually ahead.

But please do try it on your own if you want to. Most of my clients tell me that they bookmarked my website ages ago, and all say they wished they’d called me sooner. Try it by yourself, and then if you have another sleepless night spent worrying, you can call me then. Or after the next party, where you avoided socialising as you hate the questions about your life, and everyone else seems to get on with their life, and you're judging yourself for not being ‘on track’. Or you can call after your milestone birthday, when your life still isn't where you hoped it would be. Or you can call after your partner told you that they can't be with someone who feels so frustrated, low, and lost anymore. Or you can call after you hear your children say to their friends that their mommy or daddy doesn't laugh out loud…

Life is precious, and so is yours. Make it count. Use it well. Crossroads helps you reconnect with what matters to you most.

I can honestly say you may never really feel like it’s the right moment for anything, perhaps that right moment doesn’t really exist...

One thing I do know is that when something comes across our path that makes us ask that question it’s helpful to pay attention to that. I do believe that there is part of us that is always longing for and working towards realising the best possible expression of ourselves. I know that we gain confidence by taking an active step towards creating a more positive future and I do know that when we avoid making our own inner work a priority, we can find ourselves frustrated, resentful and unfulfilled. I know that it’s far more likely that we regret the things we don’t do rather than the things we do and that agency and action create a positive spiral of confidence, momentum and change for the better.

And of course, when something truly matters to us we don't wait and see, we actively create time for it. When something is important, we always find a way.

I can't look in your wallet, but if your car breaks down, I imagine you'll find the money. Or if you desperately need a holiday, I imagine you'll be able to find the money. It's just that my clients tell me that when they returned from that holiday, nothing fundamental had changed, and they felt even worse for still being stuck.

My experience is that if something hurts enough, we make it a priority. Also financially.

Having said that, it is possible to pay in instalments and I hope that helps your situation.

There is so much available to us now that we can spend our money on and it’s hard to discern what will make the difference. It’s also rather impossible to place a value on something that has so many potentially far reaching benefits.

I honestly believe that Coming Home will be different from what you may have tried before. It is founded in both solid psychology and the wisdom of ancient Eastern traditions and, because of the careful way it has been designed and as the result of years of both personal and professional experience, will bring a new and fresh insight and approach.

There are also my personal credentials that hopefully give you some further reassurance. I have been working as a full time Coach and Psychotherapist in the City of London, at Wormwood Scrubs (the biggest male prison in London) and worldwide since 2008 with a whole diversity of clients. All this clinical experience has gone into the development of this programme. I’ve been featured broadly in the media and publications and noted for the fresh perspective and depth of insight that my work brings, which hopefully can give you some confidence that you don’t have to take my word for it. A part of the programme itself was created and recorded during my sabbatical in India and Nepal and that spiritual context I believe brings a profoundly different and inspiring energy to Crossroads. It was certainly a joy to create, and my wish it that it has a far reaching effect, both on yourself and that it might radiate out to those you love.

Oh yes, most definitely. It’s easy to fall back into old patterns, and a refresher brings deeper awareness. It would be a joy to reconnect with you!

Besides the weekly 1to1 video calls (50 minutes a week), you’ll receive optional online course material to help your self-reflection in-between sessions. The more space you give yourself to turn inwards, the more profound your insights will be. I estimate about two-three hours (including our session) a week will be plenty.

Straight away. You receive immediate access to the first module of the online course materials. And our first one-to-one session will take place at a moment that suits us both, usually within a week or two after your commitment to start this programme.