From triggered to steady: a free guide
How to stop spiralling in difficult moments and reclaim your self-confidence in love.
For strong, capable women who feel anxious or unsure in their romantic relationships — and want to feel calm, clear, and confident in how they show up. Download your free guide today.
From Triggered to Steady: A 2-Step Guide to Responding with Confidence
Life seems to go rather well for you outside of your romantic relationship: you’ve got lovely friends, you’re respected at work, consider yourself quite self-aware and actually feel pretty good about who you are as a person.
Despite your general confidence and to your own frustration and surprise, in the area of love, it’s like something flips:
You don’t recognise yourself, and know you aren’t your best self;
You worry about losing your partner, or — possibly even worse — yourself;
You feel insecure, even needy — and you can’t stand how that feels.
If this sounds like you, know this: You’re not broken. You’re not weak. You’re not somehow unsuitable for a healthy relationship. And you’re most definitely not alone.
Having worked as a Coach and Psychotherapist since 2008, my take is that you are carrying the weight of old relational wounds (and quite likely, so is your partner) — and they’re showing up now in your romantic relationship in ways you never expected.
The truth is many of us experience these unconsciously repeating patterns, but until we can make sense of and understand what is actually happening in the dynamic with our partner, it’s hard to change anything in a sustainable way.
When we get lost in the specifics of each individual argument we don’t see the common denominator of what’s happening, or get underneath what’s really causing the conflict, which is unlikely to be that your partner didn’t stack the dishwasher in the right way, or forgot your wedding anniversary, but rather the deeper dynamics, unmet emotional needs and unresolved wounds from the past.
This path of conscious love gently leads you back to a safe, secure, and loving relationship with yourself — so you can bring that steady confidence into your romantic relationship. You’ll no longer be weighed down by fears, unspoken words, or emotional reactivity. You can show up as yourself, and this is what creates real intimacy. In this free offering we will take the first step together.
Download the free two-step guide “Triggered to Steady” today and enjoy the renewed self-confidence it brings.
