That feeling that we’ve got to decide something. And we go back and forth in your mind. Yes, No. No, Yes. Maybe. I don’t know. Why is to so hard to know what I want? What is my truth? Why can’t I just make up my mind?
The small niggling decisions. The choices that are the biggies in life.
Quit my job?
Which school to send the children to?
Should I break up?
Where to go for holidays?
Shall I try to become a mom without having a partner?
Travel for a while?
Do I want to share my life with this person?
Finish this study or walk away?
Do I want children?
Should we move home, country or stay put?
Left or right? Up or down? Yes or no?
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Online Coaching Programme: Turning Confusion Into Clarity
Gosh what a constant battle can we create inside of ourselves. And we really want to find the answer, but it’s just not coming. Driving us mad. Why is it so hard to find our truth?
Online Coaching Programme: Turning Confusion Into Clarity
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The program is about making decisions, connecting with your intuition, listing to our heart and how to overcome our fears. It’s about letting go of the familiar, daring to step into the unknown and life a live that’s TRUE to YOURSELF.
Curious:click here for a video that explains all you need to know to decide (oh no, another decision to make!) if you are in.
Hope to see you there. Let’s get some peace back in your head, and some lightness in your life.
The prestigious Orange Awards are an initiative from NBCC (Netherlands British Chamber of Commerce), the Embassy of the Kingdom of the Netherlands and NL-Borrels (an established Dutch networking organisation).
Fifty percent of the decision is based on a public vote (here is where you come in! VOTE HERE) and the other fifty percent comes from a professional jury of prominent members of the Dutch community in the UK. On November 12th 2016, the winner will be announced during a festive party in London to celebrate in style.
To each and every one of you who made Vitalis Coaching to what it is today: I am eternally grateful. Me doing work that I love, this nomination, the way my life is today: it would not have been possible without you. From my heart, I thank you.
My personal video message
Lol first line I say I’m speechless about being nominated, and then I talk for 7.12 minutes! Haha. If you are curious about the background of this prestigious Orange Award, the story of how I got where I am today and if you need some convincing (imagine, lol!) of why you’d want to vote for me, please do watch: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dfw9mK-nfoM&feature=youtu.be.
Coaching, Therapy and Executive Training for Dutch nationals in the UK
About one third of my coaching and therapy clients are Dutch. They tell me that even though their English is good, it’s still such a relief to be able to speak in their own language. Also, they have a sense that I’ll better understand their situation. After all, I too have left The Netherlands to live and work in this country, with all its challenges and joys. It’s only an hour flight, but at times it feels very far away from the safety-net of our Dutch family and friends. It feels good to create a supportive place away from home for my fellow Dutch in the UK. I did so for 5 years as a committee member of NL-Borrels and for 4 years as a committee member of Nederlandse City Lunches. And I’ll continue as a Coach & Psychotherapist to create a safe, welcoming, supportive and nurturing place for Dutch people away from home.
Besides one-to-one sessions, I also work as an Executive Trainer. I love combining the Dutch directness with genuine care and kindness. Whatever the country or culture of origin of the participants, my way of being models them to have open, honest, transparent and non-threatening communication with each other. Myleadership, talent development and team building days are about integrity, authenticity, inclusiveness, trust, accountability, joy and meaning at work, in order to get the best out of yourself, your people and your organisation.
I hope to see many of the Dutch amongst you on the celebratory party on November 12th where the winner will be announced. And alternatively, I would love our paths to cross at another point in time. Thank you for your faith, your trust, your belief in me. It means a lot to me <3.
Je bent tussen de 25 en 40 jaar. Je wilt een fijn leven leiden, iets bereiken in je carrière, een gezellig sociaal leven, de partner die helemaal bij jou past en wellicht één of meer kinderen. Oh ja, en misschien ook nog reizen of iets van vrijwilligerswerk om echt wat toe te voegen.
Je wilt veel en je wilt het goed, misschien wel perfect. Keuzes maken lijkt onvermijdelijk. Maar welke keuzes ga je maken en hoe doe je dat? Ondanks dat je veel bereikt van wat je wenst, voel je je prikkelbaar, moe en verlangend naar iets anders, maar wat weet je niet. Je voelt aan dat er iets niet klopt, maar wat is dat dan? Voeg daar een flink schuldgevoel aan toe, want je zou toch eigenlijk je zegeningen moeten tellen. Ja hoor, grote kans dat je te maken hebt met het dertigersdilemma (ook wel quarterlife crises of de dertigersdip genoemd).
Om te testen of jij last hebt van het dertigersdilemma kun je kijken of je jezelf herkent in de volgende vragen.
I’m writing about what it is that makes men sexy. A sexiness from within that has to do with living from a conscious masculine core strength. It’s about knowing what it means to be a powerful, happy man in the world of today.Continue reading “What makes a man sexy?”→
Requested by many, and now it’s real: a coaching and psychotherapy room in The City of London! You can continue to book your sessions in Ealing, West London. But now it’s also possible to see me in The City, near Farringdon / Bank. And for those who love the countryside: come to St Albans, Hertfordshire as I’ll be working there as well!
I was so fortunate to be able to spend the month of January 2015 in an ashram (place of spiritual retreat) in Bangalore, India.
The picture shows me with the guru of the ashram, Sri Sri Ravi Shankar.
One of the things I did in this Indian “Art of Living” Ashram was a course called “Happiness Program”, with about 80 others. Mostly Indian men, maybe 20 women and two handfuls of other foreigners like me. We did yoga, ate vegetarian Ayurvedic food (delicious!), meditated and contemplated life. We spoke about how to be happy. This blog is about sharing some of the questions we were asked and what I have learned.
When you feel tired and exhausted, how to get energy?
When will you be happy?
During the time you propose to stay on this planet, what do you intent to do?
And something about the remote control of your life 🙂
The “Wheel Of Life” is an inspiring life & career coaching exercise. It’s ideal to do at a moment of transition, for example at the beginning of a new year or around a big birthday like 30, 40 or 50. Or at the start of a new season! Create some me-time and get motivated to make the New Year a good one. The “Wheel of Life” will give you a bird’s eye view of your life and a snapshot of your level of satisfaction with areas like career, money, relationships, and health. The “Wheel Of Life” will help you to look at these different areas and see where you are in balance and what areas might need more attention in the period ahead.
You can use the “Wheel Of Life” as a way of understanding what you want in your life, what you have to build upon, and where you want to focus your energy.
My gosh, there are sooo many. And if you are like me, interested in this “let’s do this self-improvement thing”, there is enough supply to read for many lifetimes. Which ones to choose? And do they work?
In the video (click on the photograph of my book shelf) or click here you can find my personal favourites. The ones I picked focus on creativity, Buddhist ways of overcoming feeling anxious or low, Eastern Philosophy and finding or improving loving relationships.